This past weekend was the second annual Bookcon! It was absolutely amazing, I met some of my favorite authors, made some new friends, got a few new books, and I also learned a lot. I got to hear from some amazingly talented authors, and all of them had a lot of wisdom and insight to share with all of us, about writing, careers, friends, life, just everything. So here are all the things I learned this past weekend at Bookcon:
1. Try not to start or end your day on your phone. There is so much more to the world than just your twitter and Instagram, and I think a lot of people have forgotten that. So consider changing your routine, maybe instead of reaching straight for your trusty metal companion take a few minutes, appreciate the world around you. Say hi to your family, look at the trees do something that does not involve the internet.
2. Friend break up’s are a thing, and they hurt. When most people think break up they think about a significant other, but friend break ups are a thing and they can hurt even more. The truth is ending a friendship hurts, most of the time it hurts more than a regular breakup. Your best friends they get to know everything about you, they become apart of you and loosing them is like loosing a piece of yourself. But when this happens know you are not alone, there is nothing wrong with you. Other people have been where you are, and they got through it and so will you.
4. Define yourself before others have the chance to. People are always going to judge you no matter what. So forget about other peoples opinions, because the truth is no matter what you do you can’t please everyone. So you might as well piss them off being your true self rather than pissing them off being a fake version of you. So now go figure out who you are and just be that person.
5.Do what you need to stay calm. Everyone has that thing that helps them calm down when they are nervous or anxious. Whenever you get anxious or nervous do whatever you need to do to help you calm down. Whether it’s doing jumping jacks, twerking or singing some Taylor Swift. Don’t worry about if it’s going to bother someone else, or what other people may think. Worry about you and do whatever you need to calm you down.
6. Take the time to take care of yourself. I think this one is pretty self explanatory, but a lot of people still don’t do it. Just remember to take some time for yourself. Give yourself a facial, take a nice bubble bath, go shopping, binge watch a show, just treat yourself every once in a while.
7. Step away from your work. You don’t need to work all the time, especially if your an artist. As an artist your work should reflect people and life. If you work to much it will start to reflect other work instead of reflecting yourself. So step away from your work give yourself a break, then come back fresh faced and ready with tons of new ideas.
8. Just keep submitting your work. If you want to write, or paint or become a photographer or whatever, just keep submitting your work to people and eventually you will hear something back.
9. It’s not about the shares. Don’t write something because you think other people will love it and want to share it, write something because YOU want to write it. Write about what you know, about what you love and are passionate about, because writing is not about what other people think, it’s about expressing yourself.
10. Whenever your feeling bad about the way you look, go do something else. Go write in your journal or practice your music, just focus on something that has nothing to do with your looks. Remind yourself how awesome and talented you are, then remember that looks aren’t important, it’s all the other stuff that really matters.
Check out Penguin Random House youtube channel to see all that you missed at bookcon. And make sure to watch the Sophia Ross, Tavi Gevinson panel which is where most of this advice came from.